Monday, July 23, 2007

When I Write It In The Sand, There Is Something Wrong

Would you love someone if they didn't love the same things as you, or be attractted to them if they did not like the same things as you? The affinity we have for others is really nothing more than an accumulation of things that we have collected - it's not you i like, it's the things you like that i like.

And it is how we define ourselves, with our things. i understand you don't define your self worth by a sport utility vehicle or perhaps a new condo's hardwood floors - i can tell this by your muted scoffing. But you, like i, quietly pride yourself on the books you have read, the magazines you hunt and restlessly await each month, the obscure music you love, the vinyl that you still buy, the clothes you wear that makes you stand out so, and the trips you might have taken around the world. Maybe our jobs and the education we have recieved along the way might creep into the mix of things. We are a collection of things, of objects, of spent money.

So if there is a pulsing want for another person, don't disguise it with justifications on why you would get along without the attraction alone. We really would be more sincere if we all just admitted that we just want to fuck.

5 comments:

  1. You're totally right. We would be a lot better off.

    I can do you one better though: how about if we all realized that the random "fuck" is a lot like... french fries.

    - They may look tasty
    - They may smell tasty
    - They may be tasty

    But:

    - You feel sick after eating them
    - They make you fat and give you cancer
    - Not to mention that if you already have an existing relationship with a healthy food, that food is gonna be pissed at you. :).

    Okay so that last one doesn't quite follow. Whatever.

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  2. Wow. The things I miss when I don't blog often enough. as anything written in the sand is ephemeral by nature, I suspect your existential angst will pass with the appropriate elixirs of caffeine and alcohol. I raise my glass...

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  3. Well said, Cy. I've been grappling with that too! Perhaps the most important thing is if there are some intrinsic values that you both share that will keep you through time and belt buckle expansions and amassed music collections?

    Write soon! Miss your musings.

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  4. from my own personal experience, consolidation of CDs took place months after marriage. Out of over 1,000 CDs, we had only 3 duplicates. Care to guess?

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  5. tim - you are so metaphorically wise. and congrats to you and jess.


    mr. bitter - i never guess right, but given this chance, i would guess the following:
    - the clash
    - guided by voices
    - my bloody valentine

    and my angst will never pass, despite the caffeine and alcohol.


    i - i have little faith, but your wee bit is saving me.

    and you write more too!

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